7.22.2009

What kind of country is this?!?

It's naptime so I'm taking a precious few minutes to open my computer and post an update. Noah and Ella are at camp this week, so Felmata and I have been having a great time getting to know each other. I keep waiting for the tantrums, the frustrations, illness, anxiety, and all the other stuff we've been warned about. What I've experienced so far is smiles, hugs and lots of giggles. OK, and quite a few tears at the Dr's ... but what 3 year old doesn't cry when they get shots?!?

When I think about all the "firsts" Felmata has experienced in just a few short days, it makes me realize what a huge transition this is for him. Because of his easy going personality, I quickly forget how new everything is. Riding an escalator, learning to pedal a bike, jumping on the trampoline, getting immunizations, playing with Edi the dog, swinging, clean pajamas and bedtime stories, wrestling with Daddy, flushing toilets, cold (& warm!) water out of the faucet, going to a playground, neighborhood friends, taking a bath ... with bubbles!, eating at McDonalds.

I laughed out loud as Felmata slowly slowly savored his french fries, ketchup and chicken nuggets. When every last morsel was gone, I handed him the Happy Meal toy. The look on his face said it all ... You mean I get all this yummy food and a TOY too?!? How can that be?!? What kind of country is this??

When we were leaving the lodge in Ethiopia, heading toward the airport, toward Felmata's new life, I had tears on my cheeks. Although the poverty is overwhelming, although his life in Africa was so hard and provided no hope for a future, although he didn't have clean water or enough food or a safe place to rest his head at night; he did have a culture. He was part of a group of people who loved each other. He was a part of a country that loves their children in ways that America can't even begin to understand. He belonged. He was cherished. He fit in perfectly.

In our world of fast cars and fast food and glitz and glamour, and rampant materialism, it's going to be easy to lose Ethiopia. It's going to be easy to get sucked into the America that we see everywhere we turn. Some of it so good, and some of it not so much. Like the lady at Meijer yesterday who asked me "where did you get him?" I think next time I'm going to respond with "Ebay".
As Felmata grows and explores and hopes and dreams, I'm going to continue to pray that he doesn't lose sight of where he came from, that somehow, someway, he can become part of us, but also remain a part of them. I'm going to pray he becomes all that God has planned for him.
And I'm pretty sure, even after only a few days together, that God has very large plans for this very special little boy.
I have to pinch myself to be reminded that I get to be a part of it!

6 comments:

kikstra said...

I love the "Ebay" response, I might have to steal that one :-) But seriously, I think you'll find that 99% of the questions/comments by West Michiganders are very well meaning and kind, if not a bit naive, like the lady who came up to us the other day and started out by saying "I know another little boy who was adopted from Haiti", assuming Ben was. We'll have to try to bounce ideas off each other for preserving a bit of "Ethiopia" for our boys.

Julie Linn said...

Jess-you have such an awesome heart. Thanks for the post-I am so glad to hear that Felmeta is adjusting and can only imagine the stories you have after just 5 days at home. Love you!

Julie Kramer said...

Oh Jessica! Tears came down as I read your update! What a precious boy, a beautiful mom, and a special family! Just wanted you to know that we're thinking of you and look so forward to meeting Felmeta!
Hugs, Cousin Julie

Unknown said...

I read your blog earlier today but had to come back to see those adorable pictures again. I love the one of him sleeping....how sweet! Has he been on the boat yet? I'm sure he'll love it! Hope to see you soon!

jlbjom said...

Hi Jessica,
I love your update! Your blog is so fun to read.
I have been thinking about all the new things & changes that Sophia has been going through lately. We have been home 7 months & I feel bad that I am just really thinking about all these new things she is seeing.
Before my heart wasn't in a good enough place to think too much about it all, which I feel bad about when we were first home I feel I was too selfish & grieving all the change to our family to notice all the changes she was going through.
Now I am so enjoying watching her face light up over new things!
It is great to hear things are going so well for you!
Lynnae
jlbjom@gmail.com

Kelli TenHaken said...

I am so glad to hear he is doing so well! What a sweetheart he is. Thanks for the post,
Kelli